It's time to turn conflict into connection,
be heard, and rethink respect.
Stop feeling alone in your marriage. Lessen the conflict and create connection with God and your husband.
What will your marriage be like in five, ten,
twenty years if you don't take action NOW?
Who will teach your children what a godly
wife looks like if you don’t start modeling it?
How it Works:
We don't just care about marriage...
We care about YOU.
We can help.
- Experience - Since 1991, Nina Roesner has been helping people solve their relationship challenges as a communication and relationship coach. She has a masters degree in communication and certificates in Relationship Coaching and Christian Marriage Coaching from the Institute of Life Coach Training. She spent 15 years with Dale Carnegie Training, is the author of several titles, including, "The Respect Dare, 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband" (Thomas Nelson, 2012), and has led Greater Impact since 2005. Nina and her husband have worked through their own challenges and raised three kids together.
- Proven Method - The methods used are scientifically proven to have lasting results! We see lasting change each week with our participants!
- Track Record - We've seen God lead thousands out of despair and into deeper connection with Him and other significant relationships.
What our class members say...
I need to say that the community and support I have found in Strength & Dignity has increased my spiritual awareness and life profoundly.
Monica
I've been doing this a few months and seeing so much grace and changes in my heart and attitude - and my relationship with my husband and his walk with God as well! The teaching is so timely! It's been good and fruitful for my marriage.
Tanessia
Strength & Dignity eCourse has made a tremendous difference in my life in helping me see myself as a valuable individual who has boundaries of my own, while learning how to handle that fragile male ego surrounding respect. I also learned not to throw back snarky punch lines to my husband who is always throwing those kind of things at me. Setting boundaries is the biggest nugget I have learned. After hearing a "Respect Dare" program aired on Focus on the Family I ordered the Respect Dare book and after reading the introduction, I quickly saw that I needed to do this eCourse. I recognized verbal abuse in my marital relationship.
I have seen changes in my marriage because of the tips and things I have learned through this eCourse.
Jill
My husband used to yell at me, my kids used to yell at me…everybody yelled at me and treated me like their slave, and I foolishly did nothing! Thank God that now He is showing me a new way – with the help of your course! I had already been trying to respect myself more when I stumbled upon your course, but it is really helping me grow in leaps and bounds!
Jeanne
I have been searching for years for the material you have here, the way God is leading us through you. And honestly it’s an incredible relief. The work is hard. It’s a faith journey. But this is the true gospel here. I’m falling more in love with Jesus. And I’m letting Him love me. This course is reaching the deep places of my heart.
Louisa
I am re-learning God's love for me!
Kathy
We're celebrating our 32nd anniversary today! Praise the Lord!
He has changed both of us over the years.
Being less defensive has been the biggest game changer for me in my marriage and other relationships.
Thanks for the teaching, prayer, and support,
Nina and Strength & Dignity!
Natalie
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A note from Nina:
Baby, can I EVER so relate to the many women who bristle at the concept of respecting their husband!
So many of us grew up during the feminist movement and have spent years trying to live up to impossible standards of perfection in all the roles we played. What about respect for us?
We were told we could "have it all," but most of us are left feeling like we need to, "be it all," or "do it all," for everyone, all the time. The impossible demands leave us emotionally and spiritually empty and lost as women, uncertain how to attain the so-called ideal. Some of us somehow figure it out. Some of us choose to flounder in marriages where we are alone, frustrated or left with longings for greater intimacy. The remaining 20-30% of us choose to divorce, filing for two out of three separations, compared to men.
What's a modern-day wife to do? If we turn to the Bible, we see that men are commanded to love their wives, and wives are commanded to respect their husbands. Ephesians 5:33b reads, "And the wife must respect her husband." We don't come by respect naturally, that's why God is so specific with us. The same applies to husbands, but with love, instead. Love is a woman's language, it comes more naturally to us. Respect is a man's language, and most wives struggle with speaking it.
Much of what we’re going to address will be in learning how to have healthy, God-honoring boundaries.
Yes, I said, “BOUNDARIES.”
Doesn’t that fly in the face of submission? No. We don’t believe it does. We believe in BOTH. We think the Bible clearly says “both.” We even believe Jesus did both.
Here’s why “boundaries” are a topic of great importance:
By not having boundaries, or using them incorrectly, we essentially destroy the opportunity for others to easily respect us.
We make it harder for them to treat us well.
We make it easy for them to treat us like a doormat.
When we get upset and emotionally vomit all over someone, they lose respect for us then, too.
In the eCourse, we’ll be teaching you how to set boundaries that build relationships. If you want more from your marriage and want to stop feeling like a doormat, please join us in the Strength & Dignity eCourse. If you do this eCourse alongside the Respect Dare book, (it's optional within the class as to when you do the book), you’ll also improve your marriage in a dramatic way. Do more than protect yourself – birth JOY into your marriage by fully honoring and obeying God.
The other issue we have to contend with is that marriages are to be a reflection of Christ's relationship with the church. There's more at stake here than most of us realize. Read Ephesians 5:31-33: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." If we remember that we are created to be a reflection of God, that He created us in His image(Genesis 1:26-27), then we have to face the fact that our marriages are to reflect His character to the world.
Wouldn't you like your marriage to reflect Christ and the church better? When we ask ourselves, "When are we most like Christ?" isn't it true that we are most often like Christ when we are loving those who don't deserve it, don't understand us, or don't appreciate us? When we really LOVE at this level, it is truly through the power of the Holy Spirit - and in this way, we give a positive and powerful reflection of God to the world.
We know that men are wired to interact with the world around them differently than women. Researchers have found that men’s brains are physiologically different than women’s brains. Men are beings where honor and respect matter greatly, and they will often do things out of a deep sense of duty, even with the knowledge that it could be tremendously difficult or cost them their lives.
Remember 9/11? Three hundred and forty-three firefighters set their jaws and squared their shoulders and began the one-hundred story climb up the World Trade Center to their deaths. What goes through a man’s mind that he actively chooses to walk into danger like that? As women, we will never fully appreciate nor understand this unique wiring, unless we learn to communicate and connect with the unique individual God created within our own man. Without this understanding, we are destined to live a life lonely and bereft of the intimacy for which we yearn in our marriages.
The Respect Dare® is a book about what works. After listening to literally thousands of stories of struggles overcome and successes won from women in the Daughters of Sarah program, we have a great deal of evidence. There exists a connection between the relationship a wife has with her God, her husband, and her strengths. This book is a glimpse into the lives of these women and what they have done to turn their marriages around or take them to the next level of relational intimacy. All the stories are based on true events. Their stories and the way their connection with God develops will impact you.
BUT… for any of this to help, we have to respect ourselves!!
For some women, there is uncertainty in how to follow God’s Biblical plan for marriage and to respect and submit to our husbands without being doormats and opening ourselves up to being controlled or even abused.
The words, “respect,” and “submit” can cause us to recoil or even want to bolt.
It’s okay. I hear you. I’m with you, and I understand. But please, stick with me for a moment.
Maybe you have done The Respect Dare but unlike many of the men whose wives “do the dares” – your husband didn’t respond. OR he did, by taking you for granted instead of responding with greater love.
Or maybe you are afraid to learn about respect and submission because you are concerned that your already controlling or verbally aggressive or unloving husband will respond by taking advantage of you or that his verbal dismissals, discounting, and disrespect of you and/or your kids will get worse.
Maybe you think those Bible verses don’t apply to you…maybe you think you need to build up your own self-esteem before you try them, but you’ve felt so discouraged for so long that you don’t know what to do.
We can help.
We have been at this since 2005. We have studied the research and seen the outcomes.
We have found a way to help you not only save your marriage if it is possible to do so, but regardless of what happens, help you develop the skills, esteem, and relationship with God to be confident in His plan for you AND be seen as a person of worth by yourself and others around you.
And it’s all Biblical.
Yes, it does include respect and submission.
The truth is, if the words ‘respect’ and ‘submission’ scare you, even anger you, you’re in the right place. We want to help you understand them in a new way that takes your fear, which is never from the Lord, and replaces it with quiet confidence in HIM.
And you’ll get to understand how to act as a woman of strength and dignity when interacting with a man who won’t change and is consistently difficult to deal with.
The smallest thing you’ll get out of this class is greater respect for yourself and others and from yourself and others.
You might be worried you could be in an abusive marriage and confused about how to handle it. We know God hates divorce but we also know that He calls us to live a life worthy of the Gospel. Maybe our husbands can treat us in a way that feels harsh and unloving, undignified. Maybe we respond in kind, convinced that this is the way we must stand our ground as women.
Maybe we see men as enemies of women in general and we feel obligated to fight a war against men on behalf of all women everywhere now and in the future.
The messages of the culture, psychology and even the church are swirling in our heads, filling us with confusion and ultimately fear, shame and despair. We have no idea what to do.
Our culture doesn’t teach us what biblical respect is about. In fact, it stands opposed to it. Respect is something that is disappearing from all of our relationships – in our families, in our schools, at work, and in our marriages.
Strength & Dignity challenges us, as women, to learn what respect really is, to give it to ourselves and others, embrace it, and see how it can change our marriages. Literally.
From one of our participants:
"I’ve found the love and respect I’ve been fighting for in my marriage for over 20 years by giving it away!"
~Clara B.
We don’t know what respect looks like, and we worry if we’ll become a doormat. We’re afraid of losing something, but we actually have so much to gain!
When we aren’t respectful to our husbands, we misrepresent Christ and the church–marriage is more about being like Jesus than anything else. We are called to be a reflection of the life of Christ – as God made us in His image.
This means we need to be women of
Strength & Dignity –
women who respect ourselves and others!
Social research shows that when we respect ourselves, other people
actually respect us more!
Admittedly, this is difficult to do! That’s why there’s this eCourse. There’s much at stake, however –it’s mind-blowing to consider that Christ’s reputation is affected by our marriages.
Just FYI, here are a few things you need to know before we begin:
- I’m assuming you aren’t being battered. If you are being hit, pushed, held against your will, or if he is doing this to your children, please contact your local domestic violence folks. Those things go far beyond the scope of this course.
- I don’t know if you have kids, but verbal aggression in your home communicates to your kids that one person matters and the other (or others) don’t. These marriages are not about “oneness” and don’t bring glory to God or the church. A man who is harsh with his wife is not “living in an understanding way” nor is he treating her as an “equal heir” (1 Peter 3:7) nor is he loving her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). When we respond in kind, we are dishonoring God as well.
- While what many Christian authors have written about women dealing with verbal aggression is true, I’ve talked with a number of those authors and their success rate of turning a marriage around is less than 2%. I mean no disrespect here, but we aim for ahigher turnaround in marriages. If we aren’t being respectful, kind, gentle, AND speaking the truth in love, and addressing your husband's sin against you Matthew 18–style, you may end up out of the hell you find you are living in, but your marriage is unlikely to be saved.
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Lastly, your self-esteem may be so tanked that you doubt yourself. So that needs to be improved – and this is where we start.
At Greater Impact Ministries our prayer is that God will quiet the chaos and His voice will be the loudest as He leads you through this process of learning how to respect yourself and your husband in a new way. You will learn specific tools to handle emotions, stress and conflict, and implement boundaries in your marriage to keep it holy.
Those are some of the things we address in Strength & Dignity. We will show you how to take the road less traveled and do things you dared not do before. We believe in God’s word and cling tightly to HIS promises!
No, this course won’t be easy. But it will be worth it.
Love to you,
Nina
What other Christian Leaders have said about
The Respect Dare
(Nelson, 2012):
Dr. Kevin Leman, best-selling author of
"Have a New Husband by Friday":
Nina’s insightful steps in The Respect Dare help you along the path to a better marriage. Walk along this successful path traveled by many women to find growth and fulfillment. Take the first step, I dare you.
Shaunti Feldhahn, best-selling author of "For Women Only:
What you Need to Know about The Inner Lives of Men":
Believe it or not, most men need respect so much that, if they had to, they would give up love to get it – and respect empowers them to be the caring man you most need. One of the most important things you can ever do for your man – and thus for yourself — is to read this book. From the first page you are an active participant as you go through daily scripture, self-reflection, prayer journaling and lots of ‘now I get it!’ examples. Think Nike slogan “Just Do It:” each day you find yourself DOING respect – not just thinking, praying, talking or reading about it – but DOING it. You will find your habits seamlessly changing into new ways of relating that will feel as wonderful and life-changing to you as to him.
Pastor Mark Gungor, best-selling author of
"Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage":
Women need to affirm, encourage and respect their husbands with their actions and words—and sometimes it is with the lack of words that is most powerful, if you catch my drift! Respect can be shown both by what you say and often times by what you don’t say.
Many times when I speak of this to women, they launch into 20 questions: What does respect mean? What does it look like? How do I show it? What if he doesn’t deserve it? The list goes on and on. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, or no recipe or steps to follow, understand that the whole concept of respect has more to do with you than it has to do with him.
I encourage all women to accept this respect challenge and find out if I’m right. What do you have to lose except a whole lot of selfishness, bitterness and unrealistic expectations? On the other hand, you have a great opportunity to gain greater understanding, self-confidence, joy and a better relationship with God and your husband.
Go ahead, I dare you. You won’t regret it.
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